Monday, March 30, 2009
I told her one day that I was leaving work to head to an OB appointment for another non-stress test. (Towards the end of my pregnancy I had them twice a week.) She replied, "Aren't those just the BEST?! Sitting in a room by yourself - no kids around - with your feet up reading a magazine. I used to love those!"
Then when I was getting close to delivery, she advised me to stay as long as they would allow at the hospital. She said her fondest memories of having her children involved her stay in the hospital, where "people waited on me and I didn't have to cook or clean any meals."
At the time, I kind of thought she was a bit crazy or had smoked something illegal in the past, but now I totally see her point! It's so funny how much has changed in the past couple years. With Acadia, I was dying to leave the non-stress tests to get home and work, work, work around the house - cleaning, getting the nursery ready, talking to Matt about how excited I was to have the baby. Same with my hospital stay - I just wanted to get home with my new family and leave the hospital asap.
But now I get her advice - it's so nice to have a little quiet time to yourself - even if that includes being hooked up to a monitor in a doctor's office. And - no joke - I'm actually looking forward to the hospital food. (FAHC has awesome food!) It is kind of a nice thought to sit in the hospital with a menu in front of you and order whatever you want - not have to cook or clean up :)
Note to self: Always, always listen to a mom with three kids! She knows what she's talking about!
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Friday, March 27, 2009
Thursday, March 26, 2009
I think I can speak for both Matt and I when I say that yesterday was one of those days where we just wanted to crawl into bed and sleep for a week. Hiding under the covers for day and forgetting about our problems was definitely not far from my mind the entire day.
Matt didn't get the best news at work yesterday and that was a huge blow for us. We have been counting on the bonus and raise he was supposed to receive in May which coincided with Emma's arrival. Now, instead of receiving his raise/bonus in May, his pay will decrease by a bit and there will not be a bonus. It was a lot to process, a lot to take in and extremely tough to do on your own - with him being at work and me being at home, I think it was equally hard for us to get through the day without being able to talk much to each other about what we were going to do.
Before we received the news yesterday we had been having a couple of "off days". Any married couple knows that you have your ups and downs. Without getting into details, there were some things outside of our control causing strain on our marriage for a few days. Yesterday morning, we were able to talk about everything and by the end of our conversation we were back on track. There is no better feeling than when something doesn't feel right in a relationship - whether that be with a friend, family member, spouse - and suddenly you're right again. It just feels so good. And I'm a firm believer in that working out problems - big or small in your relationship - truly brings you closer together.
After what happened to us yesterday with his job, our laptop breaking (again) yesterday afternoon and our car dying mid-day, we were able to put Acadia down and discuss our plan for the future. The cut in pay is temporary, so we just needed to figure out how to rearrange things to welcome the baby (financially) and to be able to pay for the upcoming birthdays, weddings, Mother's/Father's Day, etc. this summer, along with our other bills. In the end, we worked it out and will be fine financially, and I hope everyone else at Burton will be ok as well.
Yesterday was another reminder of how important Matt, Emma and Acadia are to me. How important this family we created together is. At the end of the day, nothing else matters. The problems we were having for the past few days are irrelevant - what matters is that Matt still has a job, we can pay our bills while still sending a bit of money into savings and we are all healthy. Going through our little crisis reminded me how important it is and will continue to be, to put our family first. We are so lucky to have such amazing family and friends as a support network and they came in handy yesterday! The phone calls and e-mails from everyone were really appreciated and we were so grateful to hear your words of encouragement.
So, despite our setback, we'll continue to focus on our healthy baby due in May, our amazing daughter, the friends and family we have, Matt's job, the fact that we can pay our bills, our health, our home, our marriage - and all the other wonderful things in our lives. We're truly blessed!
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
There is the sweetest little boy in our play group named Charlie. This past weekend we met up with Charlie and his mom at a preschool party and I told Acadia Charlie would be there. She was so excited! And I'm not kidding you - she said his name the ENTIRE way to the party! LOL! It was so cute that I had to video tape it. Note: I swear I was watching the road - I just held up my camera to video tape her
Monday, March 23, 2009
Now, when we go to the doctor's office, you're lucky to be in clean clothing. Even luckier if I'm wearing matching shoes. My diaper bag consists of a diaper or two, some wipes, a few crushed up goldfish and a sippy. I carry you into the office, not because you're an infant, but because you freak out when we leave the play area.
But I still remember fondly the first visit where we were trying to do everything perfectly with our brand new baby supplies :) It makes me laugh now!
Sunday, March 22, 2009
Saturday, March 21, 2009
As with many photo ops involving toddlers, it was impossible to get "the perfect shot"
Friday, March 20, 2009
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Acadia woke up in a great mood and we spent the morning having breakfast, laughing (she's been really funny lately!), and getting ready to meet some friends at art class. We drove down town (I love being down town) and it was absolutely beautiful out. We found a parking spot right next to the art gallery, which never happens!, and walked to the gallery in the sunshine. By the time we made it to the gallery, we were both a little warm. We met up with our friends and painted then surprised my Aunt Mimi at work. My Aunt Mimi is sooo sweet with Acadia and just a natural with kids. It was so fun to visit her at work!
On the way back to the car Acadia decided to make a little pit stop at the local florist. For those of you from Burlington - it was the one on Church Street that always has it's door open, next to Banana Republic. Acadia walked right up to the flowers outside and smelled them then proceeded to go inside and smell the rest of the flowers. The owner was talking to Acadia then turned to me and asked if Acadia was still at the age where she put everything in her mouth. I told her that that stage was over, thank goodness, and she asked me if it would be ok to give her a flower! It was one of those moments (and after a very looooong winter I need this moment!)where I realized just how lucky I am to live here in Vermont. Everyone is so sweet and laid back - we're very blessed to be surrounded by our friendly Vermonters.
We left down town and I realize driving home that we'd be driving past Matt's work. I called him and asked if he felt like meeting up for lunch, which he did, and we met at the playground behind his work. We ate our soup and salad on the picnic table while Acadia played on the slide. Once we were done our lunch we all played for a while on the playground until it was time for me to take Acadia home for a nap.
She woke up again in a great mood and not long after that, Miche and Jimmy came over for a birthday dinner for Miche. We had SO much fun with them - Acadia is obsessed with Uncle Jimmy and Auntie Sissy. She loves us, she loves her friends and she loves the rest of our families, but she LOVES Miche and Jimmy like nothing else I've seen...it's really cute to see them all together - Acadia has so much fun!
I put her down for the night and she smiled up at me and said "Bye momma" and waved then blew me a kiss. It was a perfect ending to a perfect day...
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Tonight we did our routine like normal, but when I tucked her in and told her I loved her, she waved to me and said "Bye bye mommy! Love you!", then blew me a kiss. She's done this before, but for some reason tonight it just made me tear up. Even thinking about it right this moment, I feel tears coming to my eyes. So simple - bye bye and I love you. But it means the world to me when she tells me she loves me.
She's so innocent, so present, so loving. At the end of the day for her, all her problems have left her - any "fights" we have had that day have been forgotten. She doesn't care that I didn't let her watch Dora or that I didn't let her have a bite of my brownie. At the end of the day, she just loves us and doesn't care about our flaws or the problems we had together that day. Yet again, a reminder that she is teaching me just as much as I'm teaching her...
Monday, March 16, 2009
Here I am two years later - now the chair of the Christian Action Committee and expecting again. They are all just as excited and are now asking about your baby sister. Tonight I started with the opening prayer and my friend Lucy ended with the closing prayer. She said a prayer for Emma that brought me to tears. It was so sweet and heartfelt. It made me realize tonight how quickly the past couple of years have gone by. I look forward to many more years with our church and all the people that belong to it!
Friday, March 13, 2009
Thursday, March 12, 2009
*Continue being your awesome selves! You guys will be so great! Oh, and accept help when people offer :)
*My advice to you is to memorize everything you learn so you can pass along all the good tips to us! Love you lots and we are so proud of you!
*Enjoy your new bundle of joy - all those night time wakings, dirty diapers, spit up fests, smiles and giggles, kisses and hugs - believe me when I say it will pass all too quickly!
*Enjoy every second! It goes by so fast! Share the diaper changing :)
*Enjoy every moment of your bundle of joy and if you ever want a play date with your new baby, come over and play with our new baby :)
*Discipline from day one with love but let them go their own way when the time comes
*Follow your heart, listen to your gut and love them every second.
*Sleep when the baby sleeps
*Enjoy your alone time together. Once your bundle of joy arrives, remember that everything is temporary. Wait 3 days and everything will change again.
*Remember that you have 2 younger cousins available for babysitting!
*Home cleaning can wait, time with family won't...
*A sense of humor is one of parents' greatest assets
*Appreciate every moment!
*Everything you've heard is absolutely true! -Babies are a lot of work -Give up on a clean house - Date nights are very important -Always pack for the "just in case" (ie. Just in case you stop by grandmas!)
*When it comes to parenting styles and practice, don't let the opinions of others get in the way of your convictions
*Make sure you buy one of those exercise balls. It calms a baby right down!
*Remember - you are their parents, not their friend. When crying - swaddle tightly in a blanket. They feel secure.
* Go away for the weekend at least twice a year and have grandparents babysit!
* Your baby will want lots of love, attention, dry diapers, love and to be tucked in and sung to in the middle of the night
*Cherish and enjoy every moment!
*Call me when you need a night out :)
*Count your blessings every day
*Love your baby, love Matt as a daddy and your husband and remember to love yourself
*Remember to have a date night with Matt. It's important to remember to be a husband and wife
*Take and listen to everyone's advice, but do what is right for you and baby Paradee
*Take people up on their offers to help you
*Try to sleep when the baby sleeps
*Thank God every night before you close your eyes for his very special blessings!
*Trust your instincts; Lots of cuddling; Keep a diary; let your mother babysit a lot; enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!
*Remember - crying is natural - for both baby and mommy! (ok - and daddy, too!)
*To assure property development, baby must get 100 kisses a day. If you get tired, call me to complete execution!
*Always remember to take time for yourselves
*When appropriate, introduce them to M&Ms. Everyone loves them and best of all - they melt in your mouth, not in your hands!
*When you get the chance to nap - take it; warm towels when taking baby out of the tub
*Keep plenty of pacifiers on hand; enjoy each stage of the baby; take lots of pictures and video
*Hold your own - remember they came into "your" world! Always say "I love you" to them and you will get it back ten fold!
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
I am able to do some stuff at night, but I also want to be able to spend time with Matt at night and not sit on my computer for the entire evening. So annoying. Hopefully I'll be up and running again tomorrow - NEVER, ever buy an HP laptop! Those are my words of wisdom :)
Monday, March 9, 2009
We had an alphabet theme for your birthday which was really fun to plan. All of your family and friends were there and were thrilled to celebrate your first birthday :) We had a beautiful day - it was the first day since winter that we were all able to be outside and most of us sat in the front yard soaking in the sun throughout the day.
Tonight I sat at the dining room table making the invitations to your second birthday party feeling the exact same thoughts as last year. The second year has flown by just as quickly, if not quicker as the first and daddy and I couldn't be more in love with you than we are now. You make us laugh every single day. Hard to believe you're turning two and will soon be a big sister!! Time really does fly when you're having fun....xoxo
Sunday, March 8, 2009
Saturday, March 7, 2009
Friday, March 6, 2009
Here is a typical week for Acadia and I:
Acadia wakes up from anywhere between 6:30 and 7:45. We have some breakfast and I will put on Curious George at 8am so I can shower. We have a morning activity (see below for this week's activities) then come home for lunch at noon. Acadia goes down for a nap around 1ish and will normally sleep until 3, although yesterday she slept until 4:30! This is my time to do the laundry, wash the dishes, dust, nap, make my phone calls, relax, etc. depending on the day. When she wakes up, I give her a sippy of milk and a snack and we normally do an art project, watch Curious George, read books or play with her toys.
Our activities for this week
M - Music with Mia at the mall
T - Play date with some friends from MOPs
W - Pancake breakfast at a friend's house
TH - Music with Peter at the library
F - "Girl's Day" at a friend's house
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Someday...something as simple as a popsicle won't make her hurt go away
Someday...she will think she's too old to carry around her stuffed animals
Someday...she will rather sit in front of the tv instead of in my arms
Someday...she will ask me not to kiss her goodbye in front of her friends
Someday...she will be old enough to want to bathe by herself
Someday...I will have to let go and allow her to her do stuff that makes my heart stop with fear
Someday...I will embarrass her out in public
Someday...facebook will be more important to her than the crafts we do together
Someday...she will tell her secrets to her best friend and not to me
Someday...she will move away to college
Someday...she will get married
Someday...she will have children of her own to take care of
So, until then...I will deal with the tantrums...I will deal with the whining...I will continue to give her baths, cook her meals, put her clothes on for her, wipe her nose, hold her hand when crossing the streets, take Elmo with us on car rides, pour her juice, sing songs, paint, read...I will do this and realize on the hard days just how quickly she will be gone...just how quickly she will grow up...I will do this and remind myself each and every day just how lucky I am to have her as my daughter...